What does it mean to be a force in the world?
It’s getting yourself to do what you want to do. It’s healthy self-love. It’s managing your mind (so that it doesn’t manage you).
It’s taking responsibility for your reactions and actions and telling yourself the truth.
It’s being clear on what matters most to you.
It’s taking action to move your life in a meaningful direction.
You make your greatest contribution and live as the person you want to be when you position yourself in this way.
The difference between who you are and who you want to be is what you do. -behappy.me
The opposite may be depression or paralysis. believing everything your mind tells you. It’s feeling stuck or powerless, being at the effect of life, reacting to life instead of being intentional.
How to be a force in the world?
Since we create reality with our language, a place to start is by noticing the words we use.
The language in our heads limits us, often without our awareness.
Start to notice how often you use phrases like “I can’t,” “I should,” I have to.” These words drain us of power and energy.
Years ago, fellow coach Brooke Castillo said that she does not have to take care of her children (which sounded ridiculous to me at the time). She chooses to take care of her children (which is, technically, true).
It’s a subtle difference in wording that can have a great impact on our sense of self. Instead of feeling powerless, at the effect of others and circumstances, we have agency.
The next time you are invited to an event or activity, notice if you turn down the invitation by saying “I can’t.” Consider that you actually can, but you are choosing to do something else instead (of course, you may word it more carefully to the person extending the invitation).
By using “I choose” instead of “I can’t,” you are being truthful with yourself and making choices in line with your priorities. This is empowering.
By telling the truth, you learn to trust yourself. Trusting yourself is the definition of confidence.
Say you dislike your job and tell yourself that you “have to” stay. Try telling yourself, “I don’t like my job but I am choosing to stay right now” or “ I don’t like my job but I can live it with right now.” Doesn’t that have a different feel to it? Doesn’t it position you in a more powerful place?
One more example: Notice the next time your mind starts a sentence with “I am.” Anything that follows “I am,” affects our identity and therefore our actions. Behavior follows belief. Instead of “I am a mess,” or “I’m not good enough,” try “I made a mess” or “I just might be good enough.”
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. -Marianne Williamson
You are powerful beyond measure but you limit yourself with your words.
Don’t let language limit your own inestimable power and value.
Would you like to clean the limiting language-based clutter from your mind? The Essentials Package is the perfect place to start.