If you could eliminate one word from your mental vocabulary, what would it be? For me, it would be "enough."
I wake up already behind without enough sleep. I don't have enough time to do everything. I'm certainly not good enough to do it all. And then I go to sleep having not accomplished, you guessed it, enough.
Whatever your word (failure, fat, lazy, loser, broke, "bad mother," mess...), here is a little coaching tool (from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) to take the sting and power out of the word:
First, take a benign word like "lemon" or "apple."
Now repeat "lemon" or "apple" over and over again out loud as fast as you can for about 30 seconds.
Then, take your word and repeat it aloud for 30 seconds.
Notice what happens. Does the word become a meaningless combination of sounds?
Good. Because that is all it is.
Who would you be without that word in your head?