What’s Your Story?

“I don’t have enough time.” This is the story of my life. It’s one I have been telling since, oh, I don’t know, 1995. I’ll share it with anyone who asks me how I am doing. The thing is, all these years, my story has been the ABSOLUTE TRUTH in my head. It has been fact. Until now…

I now realize that “I don’t have enough time” is just a thought. Not fact. Not even a circumstance. Here are some of the facts: I have about 16 waking hours each day; I have two young children, run a coaching business and teach a college course. My thoughts around these facts create my story. My story can be a fairy tale or tragedy just depending on how my mind spins the facts.

Here’s the important part: My thought that I don’t have enough time is not helping me create more time or get more done. In fact, just thinking that thought makes me feel rushed and anxious which is not a good place from which to think clearly or creatively. The thought leads to time wasted. I prove myself right (don't have enough time) but don't get what I want (more time or more done). Such is the nature of much of our thinking.

So how do I write a new story?I take that thought and replace it with one that is true and feels better. The opposite may be “I have all the time in the world,” but that just doesn’t feel true. So I go with, “I have time for what is most important.” I also like this one, “If I stop stressing and start relaxing and being kind to myself, I will live longer and better so I’ll have more time and energy to do more.”

So what’s your story? “I’ll never meet the right person or find the perfect job?” “I’ll never lose the weight?” “The economy sucks?” “I’m fat?” “I don’t make enough money?” "I have to make everyone else happy?" State the facts and re-write your story to create a happier ending.

Would you rather be right or free? ~Byron Katie

The world is nothing but my perception of it. I see only through myself. I hear only through the filter of my story. ~Byron Katie

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