Thoughts Are Optional

The more I coach and the more clients I coach, the more I realize that we all have the same thoughts. My clients think they are the only ones who have such thoughts. And sometimes they make this mean that they are hopeless or that something is wrong with them. Which is not true.

And I'm not talking about clients who are holed up in their homes eating Bon Bons all day.  I don't have those clients. My clients are regular, busy, generally happy people who have thoughts that keep them from seeing and living their potential. They know life can be even better than it is and they want to figure out how. They are the "worried well." Aren't we all?

The thoughts that keep coming up are versions of these:

  • I'm not good enough.
  • I'm a failure or I've failed (in my parenting, my relationships, my career, my finances...you name it)
  • I'm overwhelmed and can't handle everything.

Because these thoughts seem so universal, I am working on a program to address them. And the way out of this thinking may not be what you expect. I'll keep you posted on this through my newsletter.

Meanwhile, try this: Become the scientist of your life. Observe your thoughts. Detach from them. Find them fascinating and interesting. See them as separate from who you are. And...see them as optional. That's right: You don't have to think them. If they make you feel crappy, they are not useful to the situation that worries you. Feed the thoughts you want to grow by giving them your attention and looking for evidence to support them.

Let me know what you think and need by sending me an e-mail or commenting below. As always, thank you for reading.

Photo of my family members at Trump National Golf Course December 2009.