Does This To-do List Make my Butt Look Fat?

Note: This post is included in my upcoming newsletter about de-cluttering your schedule. If you'd like to receive my free newsletters, sign up on any page of my website.

This is the first in a series of newsletters that tackles the idea of de-cluttering your life– your time, your space, your mind. Let’s start with your time – your schedule, your activities, how you choose to spend your life here on earth. In the interest of saving you and me time, I have spread this juicy information over two newsletters/two months.

I think it’s safe to say that if you’re reading this, you have an endless to-do list. There’s work, laundry, soccer practice, swimming lessons, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, taking care of little ones, taking care of parents, working out, appointments, maintaining virtual connections, flossing, e-mail…and this is only the beginning, right? And we do these things over and over, day after day, so in a sense, they are never really “done.” I don’t know about you, but I make myself feel overwhelmed & exhausted with just the thought of it all.

Then why do we try to do so much?

I suspect one reason is FEAR.

Fear that we’ll miss out, that we won’t be keeping up, that we’ll fall behind or won’t get ahead fast enough, that we’re not giving our kids the right opportunities, that we’ll be lazy or uninteresting, that we won’t be at a certain place where we can finally enjoy ourselves and relax (in our dream home, in the corner office, in the driver’s seat of the Porsche) by a certain time (by the age of 30,40, 50, the year 2020…), that we’ll miss something important, that it’s all so important and urgent, that something terrible will happen if we don’t do it, or that, God forbid, someone will think something (about us) that we don’t want them to think.

How are those thoughts working for you? Notice if any are based on control, comparing yourself to others or boosting your ego.

Here’s the thing: You cannot do everything right now and it cannot all be most important. If it’s all so important, then you are unclear on what you value. If the Pareto Principle (80-20 Rule) applies, only 20 percent of the things you do leads to 80% of your results (80% of your business comes from 20% of your clients; You wear 20% of your wardrobe 80% of the time…) anyway.

So where’s the needed change in all this? Creating your to-do list and your life may have less to do with avoiding fear and managing your time and everything to do with moving toward love and managing your energy. That’s what these newsletters are about. They're about editing your life by trimming the fat from your schedule. And, of course, making your butt look so much better.