Compare yourself to those around you. Even better: Compare your insides to everyone’s outsides. Best: Compare your insides to everyone’s social media outsides. Proceed to despair.
Resist uncomfortable thoughts and feelings. Buffer (avoid/control/numb) the discomfort by keeping busy, eating, drinking, scrolling…
Ignore your truth, pretend, and please everyone. Make sure you hide your flaws and insecurities and wrap yourself in a pretty package so that you will be acceptable and belong.
Blame others for what you are feeling and for what’s not going right in your life. In this effort to transfer the pain you are feeling onto someone else, you hand over your power to take action to change things for the better.
Hold grudges. Do not forgive. Treat others kindly and respectfully only if they treat you in such ways.
Believe your mind when it tells you that you are not enough - not good enough, thin enough, rich enough, smart enough, certain enough, safe enough. Listen to your ego when it tells you that you are what you have, what you do, and what other people think of you.
Avoid discomfort by not doing hard things, even if they are important to you.
Don’t ask for help. Believe that asking for help makes you weak and not enough (see # 6).
Believe that you are the only one who thinks, feel, or does the above.
Don’t hire a life coach to help you disrupt these patterns. :)