Lately I have had the desire to do much clearing of clutter. A certain degree of this is normal for me. I love the words “organize” and “clear.” The Container Store is exciting to me and I follow interior designers on Instagram just for the opportunity to view beautiful spaces. I also have a friend who sends me photos of cabinets and rooms she has de-cluttered and we proceed to exchange enthusiastic emojis.
There is much information out there on how to organize your physical space.
But what about your mental space?
You need an organized mind so that you can have an organized life.
Organization involves classifying items or arranging them into categories.
We have tens of thousands of thoughts per day so let’s get to know them.
Let’s start by taking a look at the categories of thoughts.
Keeping it simple, consider 6 categories:
Rules - What rigid rules does you mind have regarding your work, relationships and life in general? Does your mind tell you that you have to get rid of your anxiety before you take action? That “life shouldn’t be this way?” Notice red flag words like: should, have to, can’t, don’t, right, wrong, if-then phrases…”If he doesn’t respect me, then I’m not going to respect him.”
Reasons- What reason does your mind give you for why you can’t do something? “I am too tired to workout,” ‘It’s in my genes,” “I never finish what I start.”
Judgments- Our minds are judgment machines! This can be helpful if you’re deciding on a purchase or the nutritional value of a food. But how many times does your mind tell you, “I’m too sensitive,” “This sucks,” “Anxiety is a problem.”
Past- What stories does your mind tell you about the past? What does it say about past failures or mistakes? What does it regret?
Future - What are your worries about the future? What is on your to-do list? What are your plans?
Self - What does your mind say about you? How does it describe you? What is your identity? “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t need help,” “I’m anxious,” “I’m an introvert.”
Why does it help to describe your thoughts? Because the better you get to know your mind, the better you can manage it.
If you can stand back and watch your mind, you’re not caught up in the thoughts swirling around.
You can catch your mind in the act. “Ah ha, I hear you mind and you’re throwing out all of sorts of reasons why this isn’t going to work/get better/change. I see what you’re up to.” You can notice the thoughts that are not helping you be who you want to be, do what you want to do or produce desired results in your life.
You can then use strategies (another post or a coaching session) to get some space from those thoughts so they have less impact on you.
Would you like some help downloading the thoughts swirling around in your head? Schedule a coaching session to start de-cluttering your mind.
Find me here: maura@blueprintlifedesign,com