I talk ad nauseam about living by your values, doing what matters.
But how do you figure out what really matters to you?
Here are 4 quick ways from clinical psychologist and professor Steven Hayes:
Who are your heroes? Who would you pick as a guide? Who empowers you?
What have been the sweetest moments in your life? When did you felt especially you, especially whole, uplifted, connected?
What has been most painful? What are your struggles? Flip that over. What does that suggest you care about?
If you are writing your life as a story and you can’t control characters who enter or events, but you can control the theme of the next chapter, what is it?
Look at your answers. What do your responses suggest that you care about?
Try wording your values as qualities of being and doing.
For example, one of your sweetest moments may be your wedding day. It may seem like the value is marriage, but think about what kind of person you were that day or how you would describe your behavior. Were you loving and connected?
Did a particular trip give you a chance to be active and adventurous?
Do you want to be courageous with whatever comes in the next chapter of your life? Hardworking? Creative?
What do you want your life to be about?