Thank you for being here and reading these words.
Let’s talk about being human.
Have you found that it’s hard to be human lately?
We live in a demanding world. Our daily diet of judgment, criticism and comparison does not help.
I also happen to know that you’re smart. And the sophisticated language in your head is often used against you (by you!).
Even if you’ve checked all of the boxes on what makes a good life, you may still feel a constant hum of anxiety or lack of contentment.
Everyone is struggling. I’m talking about normal, high functioning people. It’s the kind of struggle or suffering that allows you to pretend everything is ok but enough to sometimes drive you crazy.
We need to adjust psychologically. We need to be mentally fit and flexible.
We need the skills that coaching offers - how to handle all of those thoughts, the difficult emotions, the desire for control and certainty in an uncertain world. We need to move in a meaningful direction.
This explains my focus this year:
Simple strategies for modern problems, with a focus on relationships.
Because relationships are so important.
And they can be so damn difficult.
But first, let’s talk about important.
If I asked you what is most important in your life, I bet relationships come to mind. If I asked about the sweetest moments in your life, they likely involve other people.
You probably have not heard of the Harvard Study of Adult Development (because you’re not a psychology nerd like me; it’s ok, that’s why I’m here). Begun in 1937 (over 80 years ago!), it is a longitudinal study of mental and physical well-being. It hopes to uncover a formula for a good life. George Vaillant, a longtime director of the study, was once asked what he had learned from the study. His response:
“That the only thing that really matters in your life are your relationships to other people.”
Clearly, relationships are important.
Now, about the difficult part.
Relationships test and try us and have a way of bringing up the stuff we would rather not look at.
Relationships can take a hit in modern life. But these challenges can be a gateway to growth, a chance to understand and crack the coding that keeps you captive.
So this is what we know:
It’s hard to be human. Relationships are important. When you put humans in relationships, those can he hard too.
But, here is the exciting part:
We can do hard things.
We can learn the skills to handle ourselves in the face of difficulty and make our lives meaningful. We can affect our own mental states. I’ve been studying, practicing and teaching these skills for years and I am here to share my notes with you.
I bet you know at least 2 people who could use these skills. I would appreciate you forwarding this e-mail to them. Friends and family can sign-up right here.
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