I had a difficult conversation the other day. I knew I would have this conversation, so I gave thought ahead of time to how I wanted to handle it. The night before, as I was reading The Happiness Project (because it seems like a great book to start in January, right?), I came across a sentence that helped me prep for this conversation.
Gretchen Rubin writes:
How could I set a higher standard for myself as a wife, a mother, a writer, a friend?
This is a question that guided Gretchen’s year-long Happiness Project.
I think it can guide our lives.
How can I set a higher standard for my own behavior?
When I applied this question to my difficult conversation, I decided to listen really well (ask lots of clarifying questions, repeat back to check for my understanding) and take my ego out of it (remove my need to be right, to defend myself). And guess what? The conversation was hard but it was calm, helpful and productive. What a relief.
How can you apply this question to your life?
Even in difficult circumstances, how can you set a higher standard for how you handle yourself? How can you improve the quality of your interactions? How can you do this without adding to your to-do list or feeding perfectionism?
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